When children enter kindergarten, I thought it would be easy, but in fact there are many things to worry about. For example, you are worried that your child will not do well in kindergarten, not getting used to getting along with teachers and classmates, crying and missing his mother, etc…
After a child enters kindergarten, the teachers, classmates, kindergarten environment, etc. he encounters are all very individualized. In addition, the child’s personality, temperament and other personal characteristics will eventually lead to some children adapting quickly and well to the kindergarten, while others need some help. Time, and it can be difficult for children to adjust.
It may not be feasible to ask the child directly how he or she is doing in kindergarten. After all, children around 3 years old have limited expression and understanding abilities. So how do you know if your child is doing well in kindergarten? Are there any signs that can be observed? Let me share this simply.
01. Five major signs that a child is very adaptable to kindergarten
The following performance prompts children to adapt to ideals after entering kindergarten:
When I go to kindergarten every day, I am very excited and looking forward to it. It was very smooth and cooperative to pack up and go out in the morning.
When children arrive in kindergarten, they are eager to play with their classmates and teachers and be able to say goodbye to their parents happily (of course, in the early days of the new kindergarten environment, some children may cling to their parents because of some separation anxiety, but this is only temporary).
After school, the child was happy to see his parents coming to pick him up, but he was still willing to continue playing with his kindergarten friends for a while.
After returning home, children who have sufficient understanding and expression skills will happily talk about what happened in kindergarten, or simulate what they did in kindergarten at home.
Children are very close to one or more teachers in the kindergarten and like them very much. They are very happy to see these teachers they like.
What needs to be reminded here is that when every child enters kindergarten, it will always take some time to adapt and become familiar. We need to be patient and allow enough time.
02. 3 major signs that your child is unhappy in kindergarten
The following are signs that your child is unhappy in kindergarten:
Before going to kindergarten in the morning, the child became uncooperative and deliberately delayed, not wanting to go to kindergarten. For example, eating breakfast very slowly is obviously taking time, or refusing to put on clothes or shoes, etc.
Behavioral changes in children’s interactions with their parents. If children do not do well in kindergarten, their behavior will also change. For example, parents may find that their children have become extra clingy and are either unwilling to let go and allow their parents to leave when they get to school, or they may become unusually clingy at home. In addition, children’s behavior may also become neglect and alienation from their parents, because they do not want their parents to leave them in kindergarten, but their parents still do so, so when their parents come to take them home, they choose to ignore their parents.
Some other behavioral changes, such as: obviously knowing how to go to the toilet by oneself, but suddenly peeing his pants again; sleep becomes worse or more difficult; the frequency of emotional outbursts increases; becoming particularly dependent on certain soothing objects, such as pacifiers, Become particularly dependent on a comfort blanket, a stuffed animal with a specific meaning, etc.
03. Got the signs,But how to judge specifically?
You understand the above signs, but you may still find it difficult to judge. For example, when we send the child to kindergarten, he is unhappy, crying and fussy when we leave. Is this because he is a little emotional about being separated from his parents, or is it really because he is unhappy in the kindergarten, unable to adapt, or encounters difficulties in the kindergarten? to practical issues.
- Can communicate with teachers
First, you can try to communicate with the teacher. For example, the teacher can tell the parents clearly that after the parents left, the children quickly “forgot” and became happy quickly; or they continued to be unhappy all day long. In addition, you can also ask the teacher whether the child plays with other children after entering kindergarten, or whether he always wants to be isolated and unwilling to play with other children.
- Let the teacher take some photos of the children in kindergarten
When we part with the child, if the child cries and makes a fuss, you are worried about whether the child has difficulties or problems in adapting to kindergarten. At this time, you can also ask the teacher to take some photos of the child in kindergarten to get a rough idea of what the child is like in kindergarten. Of course, after sending their children to kindergarten, parents can also try to “secretly” stay for a while and observe their children after the children cry and leave. That is, the children think that the parents have left, but in fact, parents can still secretly observe their children. performance, so that “first-hand” information can be obtained to facilitate judgment.
What needs to be mentioned here is that although photos and videos can reflect a certain moment of a child’s time in kindergarten, a simple photo or video may not be the whole picture. Therefore, even if you see the photos or videos, but combined with other signs, you still have doubts. , then you must still remain observant and vigilant, and do not just ignore all other signs that the child may be unhappy just because you think the child is happy after looking at the photos.
- Try to communicate directly with your children
If the child already has certain communication, communication and understanding abilities, you can still try to communicate directly with the child through language, such as asking them how they felt about themselves in kindergarten, or asking the children to draw pictures to express their feelings. You can try it.
04 What should you do if you find that your child is uncomfortable or unhappy?
- Help children adapt
If you find that your child is not happy in kindergarten, or is not adapting well, the first step worth trying is naturally to find a solution with the kindergarten or teacher, and try and discuss with the teacher ways that may help the child adapt. For example, find a teacher that your child likes relatively well, spend more dedicated time with the child, and gradually build a closer relationship with the teacher to help the child continue to adapt; or, communicate with the school and allow the child to be sent After arriving at the kindergarten, parents are allowed to stay a little longer to comfort their children. - Consider changing kindergarten
Of course, if you have tried everything you can and your child is still very uncomfortable or unhappy in this kindergarten, the next step may be to consider changing kindergartens. Of course, this choice is subject to many objective conditions. For example, first of all, there must be other available kindergartens near your home that can accept your children. Therefore, choosing to switch to another kindergarten may be the last resort.
